Life often gives us with trials that push our limits—challenging our resilience, patience, and sense of fairness. Co-parenting is among those trials, requiring mutual commitment and teamwork to ensure a child’s well-being. But what happens when one parent puts their own wants ahead of their shared responsibilities, leaving the other to manage everything alone? It’s a reality that many single parents know all too well. Not long ago, Carla, our reader, shared her story about how she dealt with an unexpected and bold request from her ex-partner.
Here’s Carla’s letter:
“ Hi Timelesslife,
My ex told me he desperately needs 4 months off from child support. Reason? “My wife insists we take our daughter to Disney, so I have to save!” I didn’t comment. On visitation day, instead of dropping off my son, I left a big case at their door.
My ex eagerly opened it, then he froze. Inside was a pile of clothes and school supplies. He blinked and asked, “What’s this?!” I smiled and explained, “It’s simple. Since you’re taking a break from financially supporting our child, I thought it’d be fair if I took a break too. You’ll be handling full-time parenting for the next 16 weeks.
You know—so I can focus on my own savings. Oh, and don’t worry, I packed enough clothes and school supplies for the first couple of weeks. After that, I’m sure you can work something out.”
He looked absolutely terrified and blurted out, “Wait, hold on! We never agreed to this!” I tilted my head, feigning innocence. “Oh? I assumed you’d be fine with it. I mean, it’s just 4 months. What’s the big deal?”
I let my words sink in for a moment before delivering the final blow. “Oh, and one more thing—our son didn’t feel like visiting Daddy today. He said he’d rather stay with me this weekend. So, I’ll drop him off Monday morning, and then you’ll have him for the full 16 weeks. Enjoy!”
Now, my ex and his wife can’t stop calling and texting me, but I’m not picking up. I’m standing my ground. If he chose to prioritize his new family over our son, then he should face the consequences.
I didn’t make this decision alone—he did, the moment he asked to opt out of his responsibilities. Am I wrong for this?
Sincerely,
Carla “
