My home is getting colder and colder, my husband and I live responsibly towards each other, not knowing when it will break.
According to WTT, my husband is nearly 10 years older than me, we have lived together for more than ten years, both male and female, living separately. The family doesn’t argue much, but the atmosphere is always quiet, no laughter, no voices.
Reason: both are American, speak American but don’t understand each other, saying a few sentences doesn’t feel right, so husband and wife talk less and less, even speaking no more than 2 sentences a day. At first I thought it was fine, it saved me the trouble of arguing and being angry. But I know this is not good for any marriage. My husband and I’s marriage is no exception.
Before he met me, he was always in love, no need to ask for a girl (I’m no exception). His work is open to time. In my opinion, we got married because I loved him (or just liked him, I can’t confirm), and he married me maybe because he was old enough to get married and I came from a basic family. , graduated from university, has a stable job, good appearance, and pleasant personality.
After that, after being married for more than a year, there were several times I heard him say at the dinner table that he could divorce me and he held a party to celebrate (at that time we had a child). Now, more than 10 years later, I am still haunted by his words.
From the time we got married until now, I have not been able to determine if he has anyone else outside because after a somewhat happy time of less than a year, he was quite distant with me but he still loves his children and is responsible for his wife and children.
My husband is polite and talkative when he goes out, but when he comes home, his eyebrows are always frowned, his face looks uncomfortable, he doesn’t talk to me and rarely answers me even when I try to initiate a conversation, for example. Seeing him watching the movie, I asked about the characters and content but he didn’t answer or said “no one knows”.
I don’t know where he went, who he met, what he did because he didn’t say anything, and even if I asked him, he wouldn’t answer. He thinks asking like that means managing him, the wife has no right to manage the husband or even if she said it, I wouldn’t know. I asked this explanation so that when there is a risk, I know where to look, but it doesn’t change anything because in your opinion it’s a fallacy.
Many times I feel awkward and uncomfortable when an acquaintance randomly asks him if he’s going somewhere, why don’t I go with him? Only then do I know where my husband is going or where he plans to go. Only when he left overnight did he tell me to take care of the children. In general, I don’t know anything about you, it’s too bad like that.
Besides the problems of communication and mutual sharing in life, my husband is quite good, takes his children to school on time, and has no problems picking them up late or forgetting them; I’m quite fond of my child even though I often scream at him because he’s stubborn (due to being given too much attention); Occasionally also cleans the house; Know how to eat and drink in moderation; But he has trouble with the doctor.
Regarding foreign affairs, my husband is quite open-minded, does not force his wife and children to leave school or work to come home to him to take care of parties, holidays, etc., when it is convenient, he only comes home. This concept also applies to my family. My husband has a normal relationship with my family, but I know he somewhat looks down on my poor family.
My parents are retired civil servants, have savings, basically don’t have to worry about their children, have money for their children even though it’s not much, my siblings and I have studied well, and have jobs with good to good salaries. tall, with a well-off family. While his family was rich and famous in the past, but now it is normal, with rich and poor brothers and sisters.
Lately, he’s been looking down on my poor sister (she’s poorer than me and the other siblings in the house, but in general she’s well off and doesn’t have to rely on anyone). This makes me very upset but I don’t feel comfortable telling my husband. In fact, it’s difficult to say because we live in the same house and don’t talk to each other.
Regarding money, my husband and I both have money to spend and keep a common amount for the family, try not to nag each other about money. Economic life is quite good, you can go out every year, go to restaurants, and go shopping. I don’t have to support my parents because their finances are fine, and my husband’s parents have passed away.
I tend to be quiet and don’t know how to coddle. With my husband, I rarely talk and rarely share company work because I don’t have the same opinion and feel that he doesn’t respect me and my work. He often says that my job is not difficult. I work in an office, the salary is good.
