Are you in a toxic relationship with your boyfriend/partner? Toxic means it is draining your energy, giving you a headache, and choking you. You love him, but sometimes you want to break loose from the relationship.
Before considering a breakup, you have to find out what makes your relationship toxic and try your best together to eliminate those reasons. Below are some of the things that you must stop doing because they usually make a relationship sour.
1. TALKING ABOUT OTHER MEN
Men can get just as self-conscious as women if they think their woman has eyes for someone else. Think about how you would react if you caught your man staring at or flirting with another woman. So, with that in mind, would you really blame your man for getting angry when you do the same thing? Most men won’t really care if you think another man is attractive, but talking about it with your significant other is probably not a good idea. Some things are better left unspoken in this case.
2. TALKING ABOUT YOUR EX
Men get jealous just like women do and want to feel like they’re the only person you’ve ever loved. Of course you can mention people you dated in the past, but talking about them all the time or comparing them to your current lover will only cause arguments and confusion in a relationship.
3. TALKING TRASH ABOUT OTHER WOMEN
Strong women stand up for other women, not try to bring them down. Talking badly about others shows signs of insecurity and low self-esteem, so even if you feel inadequate in some way compared with another woman, try to remember your good qualities. It’s okay to sometimes admit to your significant other that you feel insecure, but talking badly about other women will not help the situation or increase your self-esteem.
4. APOLOGIZING ALL THE TIME
If you did something wrong, of course you should apologize, but don’t say sorry unless you really need to. For example, you don’t need to apologize for wearing your PJ’s all day, not putting on makeup, or not cleaning the dishes one night. Learn to go easier on yourself, because lowering your stress will also benefit your relationship.
5. NOT GIVING YOUR PARTNER ENOUGH ALONE TIME
Every person on this planet needs a little time alone to rejuvenate and keep up other relationships as well. It’s not normal or healthy to only spend time with your significant other, so make sure you allow your partner the space he or she needs.
6. CUTTING OUT YOUR FRIENDS
Don’t neglect your own friendships either. You need friendships just as much as your partner does, so make sure to nurture your other relationships, too. Strong friendships help rather than harm good long-term relationships, so try to strike a balance between the two.
7. TEXTING OTHER PEOPLE WHEN OUT WITH YOUR PARTNER
Sure, answering one or two texts isn’t a problem, but staring at your phone the whole time you’re out with your partner will make them feel neglected. Spend quality time with your partner when you can get it, because relationships can’t work unless both people put in some effort. Referring to an old saying, “You should dance with the one that brought you.”
8. NOT REALLY LISTENING
Everyone wants attention and for people to hear what they are saying. So, when your partner talks to you, put down the phone and really listen to what they have to say. You wouldn’t want your partner to ignore you or half-listen to you, so give them the same respect you would want.
